Wednesday, 4 November 2015

Hiatus




It has been a while since I have written a blog post due to illness and taking time out to heal and revaluate a lot of things in my life, hence the title “ Hiatus “.

I think it is therapeutic to get rid of what doesn’t quite fit in your life anymore whether it be clothes, shoes, furniture and even friends. I think what I have learned over the past year is you really need to surround yourself with people that are cultivating your garden and not helping it die.

This past year has been a real learning experience for me in many ways and I am so thankful I have had the time to take time out to really find out what makes me tick and what is good for me.

There are a few things that have helped me through the very rough days and one of them is cooking, I love it. It is part of me that gets to create and learn even when the days are grey. Don’t get me wrong there are days that I can’t cook but I am glad that I am still able to cook and create on most days.

One of the other things that has helped me through my hard days while being ill is my faith and being a Christian. I know it sounds cliché but having faith really does help people heal. But let me stress to you that being a Christian does not mean your life will be perfect or you will not have any bad times or days no that is not what it means at all as many Christians have had terrible times. For me having faith in my creator is a real honour and let’s face it, you can have your worries, troubles and bad health and not believe or you can have worries, troubles and bad health and believe and have God on your side, I know which one I have chosen.

Remember to surround yourself with people who know your worth. I am learning this now and it is an enlightening and very real experience. It can be a big shock when you suddenly discover that most of the people in your life have not been very good for you so you start to doubt all your choices but ultimately it is for the best.

Taking care of yourself isn’t just about eating well and doing some sort of exercise (I am not very good with the exercise bit). It is about taking care of your spirit, mind and heart as well and that is a big job.

Be mindful and trust your gut, if it doesn’t feel right then there is a good chance it isn’t right or good for you. Remove yourself from people who make you sad. Remember you can’t change another person and you have no control over them but you do have control over you and what you do and you can remove yourself from them.

Be brave, I just realised how brave I have been in letting go of people who do not have any positive input in my life. It is scary letting go, but you will feel very empowered when you do and you will begin to respect yourself a little more for doing it.

Forgive yourself for holding on to toxic people or feelings or habits for so long and move on.

I am trying to do all of these things and everyday brings new feelings and experiences but I am learning so much but one thing will never change I will always cook hahahaha and also try to look on the bright side.

I read somewhere recently that “you are never to old to set another goal or to dream a new dream” quote by C.S Lewis. I love this quote it is so positive and says so much. It doesn’t mean you need jump out of a plane, no I think it means to not give up on yourself and to start believing in who you are and what you can do.


Since the weather is warming up I will be creating some delicious salad recipes so keep a look out for the next blog post and remember: be kind to yourself and keep smiling J

Friday, 5 June 2015

Keeping Warm and Well, Handy tips to help you keep warm and well this winter and a Ginger, lemon & lime chicken recipe


Winter seems to be the time most people like to hibernate and go to sleep until spring arrives. I know I am one of those people most of the time but this winter I am trying to look at things a little differently and enjoy the lovely cool crisp weather.

I also want to be well this winter health-wise in mind and body so will share some tips that have helped me and some new ones I have discovered and look forward to trying.

1.Eating well
We really need to take care of our diet in the cooler months so we can build up our bodies so they can fight off colds and flu and viruses. Try to eat fresh fruit and vegetables everyday. Fresh juices are o.k. but make sure they are a mix of fruit and veg, and add fresh ginger as well with some leafy greens. Why do I say that you may ask, well you wouldn’t sit down and eat three or four oranges straight down now, would you? But that is what you get when you buy a fresh juice at a juice bar. If you can make one at home then go right ahead as you can control the amount of fruit you put into your juice. A juice recipe that I love is a mix of carrot, orange and fresh ginger and it is very good for you, especially in winter. Take 1 orange, 1 large carrot and a 2cm piece of fresh ginger, peeled and chopped. Put all ingredients in your juicer as per the instructions and enjoy. Soup is another staple in our house all throughout the year and I always have some in the freezer on standby. There is a great soup recipe on one of my other blog posts entitled ‘Baby it’s cold outside’ you may wish to try. I made a big pot of my hearty chilli, veggie and tomato soup today and look forward to a bowl.

2. Layer, Layer, Layer
Make sure you wear enough warm clothing and layering is great. It is something I learnt when we went to Holland back in 2012; layering is essential. Make sure you wear good warm socks as there is nothing worse than frozen feet with chilblains and let me tell you, I had them last year and boy oh boy they are painful!


3. Hats off to you….
Wearing a hat will not only make you feel that little bit more dressed but it keeps you warmer as it helps to keep your body heat from escaping via your head. So pop on that lovely little beret you have hidden in the drawer the next time you go out. Gloves are another item I think are essential in winter and apart from looking stylish they keep you toasty warm and also help stop thousands of germs getting onto your hands, which is how we catch colds and viruses in the first place.

4. Slumber land
Getting enough sleep is so important all year round but I think it is really important in the cooler months to give the body the rest it needs so it can heal and re-energise for the following day. When the body is resting and sleeping there is so much healing going on it’s incredible. I myself am so guilty of going to bed too late and not getting enough sleep and have paid severely for it with my health in more ways than one, I can tell you. But recently I have been getting into bed early with my book to read for a bit and then getting my 7-8 hours that I require and I really feel much better for it.

5. Bend and stretch, reach for the stars
Exercise is one of those things that is on my “will do” list and never really get around to. I must admit I can be a couch potato and really have to push myself to move my body and I don’t know why I have such a battle with myself. After all, when I do go for a walk I feel great afterwards. My husband and I have recently made a pact that we will start to incorporate exercise into our lives, as we want to get fitter and healthier and both want to be around for a long time. So any friends out there who want to go for a walk, just let me know as I am now being accountable and not only have to, but want to exercise.

6. Vitamins, minerals and other supplements
There are a few essential vitamins and mineral I take all year round. I will always take a good fish oil for the omega fatty acids and I also take evening primrose oil for good fats as well. I always take a mega B vitamin as it helps the nervous system. I take magnesium a few times a week but when needed will take more as it is an essential mineral the body needs. It’s also wonderful at helping you to relax. Echinacea is always in my fridge and I will take it at the first sign of a cold or sinus along with zinc. Make sure you get enough vitamin C in your diet and if you don’t eat enough fruit or veg then you may want to take a good quality vitamin C supplement as well. Other vitamins I sometimes take in winter are Kyolic garlic and kelp.

7. Wash your hands, Jeffery
This tip is probably one of the most important in my book and it is pretty simple… Wash Your Hands. It is actually amazing how many people do not wash their hands, especially after using the toilet but they are out there. You see, not washing your hands properly with soap and water for a certain time actually leads to spreading disease and germs and that is how we all end up sick. The next time you’re out grocery shopping or out with family or friends, please don’t put your hands near your face. Not until you have been able to wash them with soap and water. They say the correct amount of time for washing hands is the time it takes to sing Happy Birthday To You (20-30 seconds). I personally don’t like using all those antibacterial hand gels as they end up mucking up all the good microbes on your skin. Just like antibiotics they not only get rid of the bad germs in you, they also remove all your good guys as well. So the simple thing to do is keep your hands away from your face and wash your hands properly.

I am pretty good with most of these tips apart from number 5, but will get better and let’s face it: we all have to start somewhere, right?

One of the things I love to drink in winter, whether I am well or not, is a hot lemon and ginger drink. It is so warming and soothing and is really good for you. All you need is a large mug, 2-3 slices of lemon cut in half and a good piece of fresh ginger peeled and chopped (about 2cm piece) and a teaspoon of honey. Put all ingredients in your mug and cover with boiling water, stir and steep for a few minutes and then enjoy. You will feel warm instantly and it also helps fight off colds as the ginger in it is a great healer. You can reuse the lemon and ginger for at least 2-3 hot drinks, just top up with more boiling water and add another teaspoon of honey.

I love ginger and don’t think I could live without it. I always have fresh ginger in the house and cook with it weekly.

Today I thought I would share my spicy, ginger, lemon & lime chicken recipe with you, as it is great in either hot or cold weather and would also be ideal for a party. It has a bit of a kick to it heat-wise so if you don’t like chilli, then you can adjust the amount as you go along.

Lisa’s ginger, lemon & lime chicken

Ingredients:

 ½ cup of a good ginger, lemon and lime marmalade (I use Buderim ginger, lemon and lime marmalade)
1teaspoon ground ginger
½ teaspoon ground coriander
½ teaspoon cayenne pepper
¼ teaspoon dried parsley
¼ teaspoon sweet paprika
2 ½ tablespoons balsamic vinegar
1-2 tablespoons olive oil
8 small chicken drumsticks or chicken thighs (I love chicken thighs but both work well)
Rock salt to taste (one or two grinds)
Ground black pepper to taste (one or two grinds)


Method:

Pre heat oven 180oC

In a bowl mix all the ingredients and toss the chicken in the bowl so it is completely covered with mixture.

Place in a large baking dish and bake in a moderate oven for 30 minutes and then turn and baste and pour the remainder of the glaze over the chicken and cook for a further 30-45 minutes depending on your oven.

Make sure the chicken is completely cooked right through and serve with salad, potatoes or fresh corn

Sometimes I cut up un-peeled potatoes (regular and sweet) and place them around the chicken when I first put the chicken in the baking dish and then the potatoes take on the fabulous glaze and end up spicy and deliciously crisp and moorish.

This glaze would also be good on duck and you could make fabulous chicken skewers with it as well.

                                                       Enjoy


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Friday, 22 May 2015

PMDD what's it all about?


Health, there seem to be a lot of articles on health out there, especially on women's health and the list of health problems or concerns goes on and on forever. You will read about hormonal imbalances and energy levels and skin imperfections and even what's good for your gut, but there are just some disorders you never here about.

PMDD or premenstrual dysphoric disorder is the most severe type of PMS you can possibly suffer from and it affects between 2%-10% of women. It is actually debilitating to the point of it affecting a woman's career, as she will not be able to go to work or function in her everyday life. Symptoms include mood swings, depression and feelings of hopelessness, tension, anxiety, difficulty concentrating, fatigue and sleep problems. These are just a few and you can read about this more in-depth Here.

You are more likely to suffer from PMDD if there is a family history of depression and or anxiety or if you yourself suffer depression and anxiety or have suffered post-natal depression.

I suppose you’re probably saying to yourself: ‘this sounds exactly like PMS and PMT’, but I can assure you it is nothing like PMS or PMT. In fact, it is more like TNT and how could I possibly know? Because I suffer from PMDD and have done for a while – I was only diagnosed a few years ago but it has got progressively worse as I grew older.

It is very funny how hormones and the lack of in this case (progesterone) can make you feel like a completely different person. I think for me the biggest change has been dealing with the emotional side and the anxiety, which has been exacerbated tenfold.

I am particularly lucky to have a very supportive and loving husband and lovely supportive friends and family but when I am suffering I do not want to see anyone, let alone let them help me in any way. My husband is the only person I see when I am unwell and suffering and I am very grateful he stands firm and continues to love me when I feel very unlovable and downright horrible.

There are things you can do to alleviate the symptoms but there is no cure and you basically have to wait until menopause is over. There are vitamins and minerals you can take and a wonderful vitamin called Vitex, also known as Agnus Castus, and it does help quite a bit. I didn't know how much it helped until I stopped taking it, thinking I didn't need it and would be ok. Let's just say that wasn't one of my better ideas. Magnesium is another wonderful mineral that will help as it relaxes the body and is also beneficial for the heart.
You can find out about other supplements and natural help Here.

Getting enough sleep, meditating, eating correctly and taking vitamins and minerals and exercising will all help. I am not the best at getting enough exercise and also tend to go to bed too late sometimes because I can't put my book down or am busy on my computer. But I try to get all the other elements in balance and if all else fails, I pray and sometimes that is all I can do on a bad day and that's o.k.

Getting support is important as well and may be in the form of contacting your family doctor and or a naturopath as they can work well together. Just make sure you advise your family doctor of any vitamins and minerals you start taking so they can note it down. Support from family and friends is also vital but if you can not get that support I do encourage talking to a counsellor or therapist as it is always helpful to be able to talk about what is going on in your body and what you’re feeling. 

I hope this has helped any women out there who may suffer from PMDD as it is a subject that is not talked about and I feel it needs to be. I also hope it may help any husbands, partners, daughters, sons or anyone who may have someone in there life suffering from this condition.

Remember to be kind to yourself and take some time out when things get difficult. There is help out there, we just have to ask for it.




Wednesday, 13 May 2015

Family, celebrations and Almond, lemon and coconut cake with Apricots and vanilla syrup


This last month or so has been so busy it has flown. It seems April was filled with celebration after celebration and now May is the same, but that's good busy and there is nothing I love more that celebrating with the ones I love and care for. Birthday after birthday and Easter and Mother's day was thrown in there as well.

First it was Easter and then my birthday being celebrated in April and, because I couldn't catch up with everyone at the same time, the celebrations went on for about three weeks, which was pretty O.K in my book. Then we celebrated my Mum's 75th birthday and Mother's day, both of them on Mother's day which was pretty special for my mum. It was lovely to cook a yummy lunch for everyone and help celebrate.

The next birthday coming up is my husband's and it's a big one as it's his 50th birthday so we thought a party was in order and so I've been organising all the things that go in to making a party special.

I adore celebrating with the people I love and care about and can't wait to celebrate with my husband and all our family and friends. In fact, it will be a very special night as his mum, brother and two sisters are flying over from Holland so he will be getting the best present ever.

One of the things I really enjoyed making recently was my mum's birthday cake which was an   Almond, lemon and coconut cake with Apricots and vanilla syrup and it was divine. I have added a photo of it with this post and look forward to sharing the recipe in the near future.

Well, if any of you out there are celebrating anything special, whether it be big or small I hope you all have a wonderful time and enjoy every single moment.

Friday, 8 May 2015

Mum's the word



When I was a little girl I dreamt of many things, e.g being a nurse and being a singer and also being a mum. I wanted to have six children, not two or three but six and I am not sure why but it had to be six. Well, God blessed me with one gorgeous, amazing daughter and I tell you what: I feel pretty blessed indeed. My baby is no baby anymore as she is twenty-six years old, but she will always be my baby.

I remember the day I found out I was pregnant. I went to a medical centre not far from home and the doctor sat opposite me, looking very stern and serious and said:"You are pregnant." Not a smile in sight. I couldn't believe it, I was so overjoyed and excited that I screamed out:"Really? Wow that is great!" and had the biggest smile on my face. The doctor then relaxed and, for a moment he smiled and shared in my joy.

This baby was wanted, this baby was planned and this baby was incredibly loved by both her parents and it was one of the happiest days of my life finding out I was going to be blessed with a child. I think the doctor who gave me the wonderful news of my pregnancy was baffled at my joy because I was not married and I think he assumed I might be sad about the pregnancy and was taken aback at my joy and happiness.

I wasn't very conventional and didn't come from a conventional home and it didn't seem an odd thing to not be married. I think the most important thing for me at the time was to make sure this beautiful child was loved and safe and cared for and... she was.

Watching my daughter grow from a tiny baby into a beautiful young woman has been an absolute privilege and I have never taken motherhood for granted. It is a blessing I thank God for her everyday and will do all the days of my life.

This Sunday is mother's day and I am so thankful I get to celebrate it, not only with my daughter but also with my mum. I look forward to cooking a delicious lunch and spending time with my family and thanking God for what I have.

You know, life isn't perfect and sometimes relationships and families are not perfect but I am thankful for what I have and even though there are moments of stress and anger and even sadness, you have to think that is life and you have to make the best of what you have.

My relationship with my mum is far from perfect but I love her to bits and I am glad she is still with us all.

I hope everyone has a lovely mother's day, whether you're a mum, have a mum or know a mum. I hope you make it a special day and enjoy.


Tuesday, 28 April 2015

Numb





As I sit here at my computer to write to you all, I am trying to put the right words together after the awful sadness that has just occurred.  In the early hours of the morning 12.35am (3.35am AEST), a group of eight men were executed by firing squad on Nusakambangan prison island.  Andrew Chan and Myuran Sukumaran were two Australians among those eight who lost their life today.

The two men had spent the last ten years rehabilitating and had repented and been genuinely sorry for what they had done and had recognised the pain they had also brought upon their family and friends. I am not usually at a loss for words, but today I am and that is OK as I think most Australians will be feeling a lot of different emotions racing around their bodies and I suppose that is the natural process of grief.

Even though we didn’t know these two men we had been on a journey with them for the past ten years and I think that is why it has affected so many of us. Numb, that is how I am feeling, numb and exhausted as it is over. We all have to process this in our own way. Over the past months I have prayed for these men and cried many tears but today I feel numb and still.

I am grateful that they were at peace with God and with themselves and I pray for the families who will be suffering right now. I am thankful for the miracle that occurred with the ninth person to be executed saved at the eleventh hour. That miracle saving Mary Jane Veloso is amazing and she is so thankful, it was wonderful news. I am thankful that the person who actually did the crime spoke up and saved this woman as she was innocent.

A lot of people will be questioning God at this moment and there will be many angry with Him at what has occurred but I feel that is wasted energy right now. We can all be thankful that Andrew and Myuran knew God and were at peace. We can pray that the death penalty will be abolished as nobody has the right to take a life but God, and above all hopefully we can all learn from this that taking risks in other countries that have different rules than we do back home is a risk and you have to think to yourself: ‘Is my life worth it?’ Something for us to think about.

                                                  Art work by Myuran Sukumaran